If you are thinking, “I want to protect my kids online, but I just don’t know where to start”, you are not alone. The vast array of devices and apps can make it seem like a daunting task, so I created Sensible Cyber Parenting®. Through the blog on this website, I provide a growing, searchable resource of information that you can use, but even that can seem overwhelming if you don’t know where to begin. See why I do not set up parental controls FOR parents, but rather help empower them to do it. Remember, when something is important to you, you will put in the time and effort needed to accomplish it. The following steps should help you get started: 

  1. Recognize the need to protect. – If you are here, there is a good chance you already do, but just in case you “trust your kids” or think “they would never”, I hope that I can convince you otherwise. If you understand the need for protection, but you think your kids are to young, they probably aren’t
  2. Prepare your kids’ minds to have the proper response to bad content. – Since I tend focus on the technology aspect of protection, I hadn’t thought about this vital aspect of protection at first. But, in doing research on the subject, I came to realize how important it is to help their brain react properly to what they may accidentally see even with the best efforts on your part. Read these posts for more information: Talking to Your Kids About PornographyProtecting Your Child’s Brain From Pornography    
  3. Take an inventory. – Make a quick list of every internet connected device in your home. Now, start a sheet of paper for each of those devices by writing the device name at the top. On each sheet list the following: Who has access to it, does it have access to an internet browser and does it leave your home. Internet browsers are available on many more devices than phones, computers and tablets. Many game systems have them now. See this web page for more details about which devices have browsers.   
  4. Protect your whole network. – As with most types of security, the best approach is a layered approach. You want to start by protecting your whole home network, which means you start with your router. There are several SCP  pages dealing with this topic but here is the main one. For more information on protecting your router choose the OpenDNS Category to the right. 
  5. Use built-in controls. – Now you are going begin protecting each device individually. As you do, be sure to add any user names, passwords and other information about each device to the sheet of paper you started. When you are finished keep the pages in a secure place away from your kids. First, you want to take advantage of the controls that the manufacturer provides. Some devices come with very limited controls and others are pretty substantial so see the manufacturer’s websites. However, for your convenience, many are listed in the following post: built-in controls for some of the most popular devices and game systems.  
  6.  Add additional protection as needed. – Now that you have your whole home protected and you have turned on any available built-in protection you need to determine IF additional protection is needed. There is no easy answer here. It will depend on the age of the child, what apps are allowed on the device, how robust the built-in controls are and whether the device leaves the house, etc. The iOS family settings give parents quite a bit of control, but you need to be sure if an app is allowed that it is safe and that Safari is set to restrict adult content if you allow Safari to be turned on. At a minimum, I would advise a “safe browser” product such as Mobicip for older kids who are allowed to have a browser. However, I highly recommend a product called Circle that gives parents added protection and control options — think layers, remember. There are other products that you can read about here as well. The good news is that most of the companies that produce parental control products, seriously want to help you succeed. Remember the sheet of paper and your note about whether the device leaves the house? If the device leaves your home, you cannot rely on the router protections to cover it when it is gone. Circle also offers a mobile product that protects when the device leaves your home network. 
  7. Best practices. – Layered protection starting with whole network protection has already been discussed, but the next best advice that I can give for implementing a protection plan is to begin when your kids are very young and start with very tight controls. If you start young it is a way of life. If you start with tight restrictions, you can always loosen them. But once an app or website has been allowed, taking it away becomes difficult. Finally, a message for Christian parents: you are not alone in this battle. I believe that it is your responsibility as a parent to do everything you can to protect your kids with the resources that God has given you but you also have a Helper who has absolute power to intervene where your efforts fail, so pray and ask Him to help you

Please contact me with questions or share what combinations of devices and products have worked for  your family. Perhaps those questions or comments can be used to help others in a future post.